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He that is of the opinion money will do everything may well be suspectedof doing everything for money. – Benjamin FranklinIf you want to know what God thinks of money, just look at the peoplehe gave it to. -Dorothy ParkerThe easiest way for your children to learn about money isfor you not to have any. -Katharine WhitehornIt is pretty hard to tell what does bring  happiness;poverty and wealth have both failed.- Kin HubbardYou can get more   “Money”, butyou cannot get more ” Time”.- Dr.Sudhir Shah” Time ” is more Valuable than  “Money”. – Dr.Sudhir Shah

03-01-2009

Divorce and Successful Marriage..

 Divorces  :

1st reason : I feel , that the  importance of marriage is overlooked  now a  days. if you truly love your husband /wife ,  adjustments – forgiveness comes very easily and there is no room for rejections.

2nd reason : There  is Non-attachment.  Boys and Girls in India from the last many years have started their relations, during school days and college days. They experience many partners before actually getting married.  Then they eventually realize the mistake that he/she is worst male/female, i have ever had in my life ( after comparison with their last many boy/girl freinds). Being a basic nature of human beings, we have natural tendency to get attached to the person we think is the best. And to the worst boys/girls get married after having so many affairs and if unfortunately they realized after sometime the person they got married is not at par with their x-mates, their attachment factor becomes  negative and nothing then left in their marriage to hold them for decades to come.

3rd reason : There is “NO LOVE” between the partners.

4th reason :  Men is still not ready to Respect the Individuality of  his better-halfher views, her opinions and hence the result is  ‘divorce’.

5th reason : Women are expected to sacrifice, suffer, take patience, forgive, and what not?  But for what?  Only for social status of being married. Nothing else, No appreciation, No love and Affection, No care for them. They are treated as full time unpaid servants. In the name of duty they are being exploited to the core. Welfare of women is only on papers. Even the highly educated and employed girls are suffering untold miseries silently.

6th reason :  Playing Blame games.  As we all can see, men are blaming women for divorce and vice versa.   There is no more understanding  and hence no more love and patience.
If they  understand the concept of marriage very well and its importance there are high chances that one  would not walk out of a marriage. There needs to be sense of responsibility and understanding that whatever happens between a men and a woman in a marriage is entirely due to them and that they should have the maturity to dissolve the differences thus created rather than blaming the other partner. Ego -Ego and Ego….

7th reason : For all kind of bonding,  “Love” is the strongest force which is almost gone from  the Relationships.

8th reason : The Terms  “compromises”  and  “adjustments”  have all flown out of the window. Some compromise in the life every one has to do. You cannot get everything, both the partner has to understand this. otherwise divorce.

other Reasons Are:
 Lack of communicationUnavailability of time to spend with each other.(Main reason), Excessive responsibility of family and bussiness.(Money-Money-money mantra)
Doubting and quarelling nature leads to dissatisfaction.  People start forgetting the ethics and moral values of relationships in the life. Loss of credibility, trust and attachment between the partners.  Demand of dowry from bride groom’s family leads to unhappiness and distractions.(Now a days dowry is less ) Mismatching of partners creates sorrow, arguments and clashes. hence ultimatelly divorce.


Love  stands for endurance, acceptance, respect, regard, warmth, help, moral support, emotional support and above all ,  in love you  are ought to take hurt  not give.

My final conclusion of  33  years of experience as a Councillor : I can say,

(1) Remember money part is not important, but “Love ” is more important to a women.

(2) “Give Respect Take Respect ” is the ‘ Master key ‘ for Successful Marriage.

(3) Successful  Marriage  stands on  Truth,  Joy , Love  &  Trust .

(4) In marriage : M    stands for Merging – આત્મસમર્પણ

                                         A    stands for Ambition – મહત્વકાંક્ષા

                                         R    stands for Respect – સનમાન

                                         R    stands for Response – આવકાર (સ્વાગત)

                                          I    stands for Intimacy – ગાઢ એક્યતા

                                         A    stands for Assurance  – વિશ્વાસ

                                         G    stands for Gaiety – આનંદ

                                         E    stands for Eternity – શાસ્વતા

if you follow and respect the above meaning of  MARRIAGE you are Successful in Marriage.

(5) Last but not the list, my favourite slogan : Time + Understanding + Situation = Satisfaction. So Spend maximum Time together,  Understand eachother,  and at any Situation bondage is important, so that Marriage is fruitful in satisfaction.

Be happy,

Dr.Sudhir Shah

  

Time (Samay) + Understanding (Samaj) + Situation(Sanjog) = Satisfaction (Santosh)

Time is forever speeding away. Time never halts. As soon as a child is born, we take down the time of birth. He takes birth only at the particular time decided by the Lord Almighty. Once he is born, the speed of time begins its count down towards death. Time is supreme. Time is ahead in every way.

Nothing can be got before or after time. We receive every thing only at the right time. Picking up the right moment and making right use of time is called the art of understanding. The person who makes use of all understanding at every moment (Time) is called lucky. As our every decision is dependent on the amount of understanding we use in every moment it becomes very important to make the right use of it.

When one can walk along with time; taking decisions on time with understanding; and also behave with understanding;  then I can say without doubt that the situation has come. Situations build man, they give shape to man. They can take a man to depths of defeat as also to the peak of success.

Waiting is hidden in time. Time makes a man wait. Can we ever get any thing before time? Never. In fact it is important to get everything on Time; so becomes necessary to recognize the right Time. That is why I say, “Hard work, done on recognizing the correct Time never fails”.
This correct Time means Fate;  to act with it is called hard work;  also important is to combine hard work with the right understanding. When a Situation arises due to good Fate; the correct direction, true act, correct decision, done with correct understanding will give total satisfaction.

Time itself gives rise to situations. Time is forever with us, day and night, like a shadow. As time is so important it becomes necessary to note the correct birth time of a child. In the science of astrology; readers remember always to take down the birth date, time, place for the record. Without these three important information a horoscope cannot be made. What is a horoscope, we will discuss some other time. At present I am discussing only Time + Understanding + Situation = Satisfaction.

Time never waits for anyone; it walks non stop. Over and over again we hear the words – Time flew away. Constantly 24 hours, the clock points us the present time; also reminds us of all time that has already passed away. Even a dead clock shows the correct time twice every day.

No one can compete with time. The entire universe has to wait for time. Waiting for some one, the sweet and sour memories are forgotten because of the blessing of time.

An astrologer, Nestrodomas, 400 years ago had forecasted the happenings with his intuitions for the coming 400-500 years. He can only tell us and caution us about the happenings. Whatever has to happen will occur in the exact time. But it does give us deliverance in the form of inference; ie we get the time to think before taking decisions and leaping into some situation.

“This should happen at this time” or “This will happen at this time” or “Take care at this time” or “take advantage of the coming time” or “You missed yesterday’s auspicious time” – Only a good astrologer will be able to tell you all this.
An astrologer is a guide who recognizes the correct time and tells you before hand, helping you to be ready and take advantage of the right situation.

Think for a moment, ‘Am I able to walk along with time in the right way, do I take my decisions after understanding the time period, Am I able to take advantage of the correct time in the right way?’ – Gone time never comes back. What is left with us are only the memories and then a wait for ‘The next time’ when we might be provided with another opportunity. To avoid this delay one can understand the right time earlier through astrology. To be able to not waste any opportunity, proper understanding is required. To know and take advantage of the right time, the right situation should arise; only then one can experience the desired satisfaction.

Understanding would mean to be aware of – “What am I saying?”; to be aware of what you are doing. “ Yes, I know what I am doing and what you are telling me”. To know the meaning of all our actions is to act with understanding. To understand what is being explained, to evaluate, to reach into the deapths of one’s mind is to understand.

Even elderly people can be compared to a small child when they lack the understanding. A non understanding person can also be compared to a donkey; as he lacks the required understanding. Another type of understanding which depicts an aggressive and proud nature is , “What do you think of yourself, I will see you”.
Another type of understanding would be in the form of confession or a repentance,
“Yes, I live in whatever way God keeps me; I may have committed some sins in the past births, so have to go through this misery”.

In both situations a different type of understanding is hidden; but understanding is there.

Understanding works in different ways. To get the right meanings one has to do meaningful evaluations and then come to conclusions.

Understanding has a lot of ………. Hidden in it. It can take a man very deep he could become so deeply immersed in his thoughts that out of the concentration some useful inventions come in this world. All scientists are the out come of understanding. They have the capacity to understand some things in particular ways so come out with inventions for the benefit of society.

What someone has said, if it is evaluated with the right understanding, only then some permissions are given.

Understanding comes slowly. A new born baby cannot speak.. to be able to express its desires or wants it can only cry out. It cannot say it is hungry and wants milk. The mother understands its language and comforts him. That is the mothers understanding. The child has the understanding to only cry for whatever it needs.. it explains through a code language. It is also understanding because of which a code or signal can be understood.

An incident which takes shape due to time and understanding is called a situation. Situation has to be respected.situations can sometimes pressurize a person; other times gives satisfaction and we feel grateful to the situation. They also heal our wounds, as also build up and shape our personalities in better ways. Situations have the power to either lift us up or take us to the lower depths.
According to our needs the situation gives or takes away.
One can also be deceived by situations.
Situations are powerful as they hold time, fate, deeds, understanding of hard work.
If fate and hard work can be understood and explained on time – it is only through the science of astrology; through an experienced astrologer.

 

 

Dr.Sudhir Shah

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Samay + Samaj + Sanjog = Santosh

My Life  Slogan is

Samay + Samaj + Sanjog = Santosh  means

Time + Understanding + Situation = Satisfaction.

Dr.Sudhir Shah

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